Writing a love letter to yourself!

Love letterWe have had a shaman visiting us for the past week doing healing sessions on our entire family. It has been an experience to say the least…a wonderful experience! After one of my sessions, my homework was to write a love letter to myself to honor those beliefs from the past that have held me hostage for so long and then release them by burning the letter. I finished writing it and was pleased with what I wrote, but then in a meditation afterward, I got a message that said that I needed to change it a bit.

You see, in writing all the things I wanted to release, I used the words “I am this” or “I am that”. For example, I am not worthy, I am unloved, I am undeserving, etc. (Have you ever found yourself using these kind of statements?) These statements were saying that I AM these things, that this is the state I am in. But this isn’t true.

Instead, I FEEL these things deep in my heart. The inner message was telling me that there was an emotion that underlies these feelings, causing them to surface…the emotion of FEAR. And what I needed to do is to get to the root of these feelings, get to the fear. And what would be the best way to do that but to replace that fear with LOVE?

So, here goes…

Dearest Erica,

First I want to tell you that I love you. I hope you know that. I know I don’t always act like I do, but that is because of old beliefs that I have had, and that is why I have written this letter to you.

There are many fears and thoughts and beliefs that have clouded my mind for so long that have prevented me from opening my heart to love, and thus, you have not felt loved like you deserve.

So be with me as I hold everything that I need to let go of, in love’s embrace before I release them…

I don’t feel deserving!…I hold you in love’s embrace
I don’t feel worthy!…I hold you in love’s embrace
I feel abandoned!…I hold you in love’s embrace
I feel unloved!…I hold you in love’s embrace
I feel unable to love!…I hold you in love’s embrace
I feel frightened! Life scares me!…I hold you in love’s embrace
I feel shy!…I hold you in love’s embrace
I feel incapable!…I hold you in love’s embrace
I feel imperfect!…I hold you in love’s embrace
I feel stupid!…I hold you in love’s embrace
I feel like I can’t do anything right!…I hold you in love’s embrace
I feel ugly!…I hold you in love’s embrace
I feel jealous and envious!…I hold you in love’s embrace
I feel mean and angry!…I hold you in love’s embrace
I feel impatient!…I hold you in love’s embrace
I feel controlling! I feel like I am not able to let go!…I hold you in love’s embrace
I feel selfish and ego-centric!…I hold you in love’s embrace

I want things my way!…I hold you in love’s embrace

All of you have been with me for a very long time and I honor your presence, but it is now time to release you into the ether to be transmuted into light. You have served your purpose and I bid you farewell.

Now dear Erica, my heart is pure and free from the weight of the past. I embrace you with loving arms. I am you and you are me! We are one!

Much love,

Misa Hopkins, bestselling author, healer, speaker and teacher, who healed herself of MS, introduced the Holding Meditation, an ancient meditation where one is held with compassion in the womb of the loving Sacred Feminine essence. When the shaman asked me to write the love letter, embracing myself in love, I thought of the meditation, which you can download for free here.

Yesterday, I took my letter and put it in a despacho, which was burned. A despacho is a shamanic offering to the Universe, in my case, a ritual of energetic exchange for healing. You may be familiar with burning as a technique of getting rid of the baggage of the past. I look forward to seeing what the impact of the burning will have on my healing. Of course, I also have a tremendous amount of “homework” given to me by the shaman to continue my healing and become the “new me”…rituals, creating an altar, flower and salt baths, body movement and reciting a new mantra that is positive and replaces the negative beliefs of the “old me”.

Or any letter, for that matter, that helps you release the beliefs from the past that have held you back from really being who you are, from expressing the genuine YOU? If so, what did you do? Did you burn it or cut it up or bury it or release it to the wind? Did it have an impact on your life? I would love to hear your story and its outcome!

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Erica TucciERICA TUCCI had a full life as a corporate manager of a Fortune 500 company, a healing arts business owner and an author. It all came to a screeching halt in June 2011 when she had a stroke. During her recovery, she gained much wisdom about what’s really important in life. Although she was a Reiki master, massage therapist and life coach as well as a corporate cog for many years, she realized that her passion was her books. Her hope now is that the messages of her books will be an inspiration for others, young and old. Visit her websites at www.ericatucci.com, www.sarahsgiftseries.com and www.radiantsurvivor.com

Love Lessons We Can Learn from Our Children by Dr. Debra Reble

Children's loveIf you want to learn how to love and be loved, spend the day with a four year old. You will know love again.

Children love and connect in more open-hearted and unconditional ways than we do as adults. They intuitively plug into to a field of divine energy that emanates from them. Through this connection to their divine source, they are continuously in touch with their infinite nature as love.  

Love comes naturally to children as it once did to us. They don’t think about expressing love, they just do it. Heart-centered and optimistic, they trust their innate ability to love and be loved. Above all, they radiate love without ego, expectations, or reservations, and show us that nothing is more important than being love.

Being a mother opened my heart to love in ways I could never have imagined. My children were my best teachers for how to love and be lighthearted because they infused their daily lives with it. As bundles of pure love energy, they moved from one moment to the next with a passion that bubbled up and overflowed into a sea of possibilities.

“Come on Mommy,” my daughter would say, “Let’s run in joy!”

Just observe a child at play, openhearted, and present and you will see them as channels of love, delighting in the beauty of life. You, too, knew lightheartedness as a child, especially when you splashed in puddles after a warm rain, chased twinkling fireflies on warm summer evenings, or built forts or fairy altars in your backyard. You paid attention to the ordinary which made life extraordinary.

Living in the flow of love, you can be fully present, and notice the beauty and wonder in the world around you. You can tune into your senses, which turns up the volume on the artistry that surrounds you. Gazing up at the stars, deeply listening to a loved one, or smelling the newly mown grass, you can be more mindful of your wonderful world and fully connected to those around you.

Children can show you how to take time to play and “just be.” Remember, when you had twenty minutes for recess? The bell would ring, and for twenty precious minutes, time stood still and the universe of possibility opened up to you. You yielded to this freedom of spirit knowing that nothing else mattered. As an adult, you may have lost the sense of spontaneity you had as a child, when rules and routines were things to be ignored. As difficult as it may be to take time to just be, you must give yourself permission to do just that.

It’s challenging to take time to celebrate “being” in a culture that values doing over being and productivity over creativity. Becoming more present can you restore the balance of energies needed to enhance your relationships, deepen intimacy, and live in the flow of love. Like children engrossed in creative play, you feel connected, distractions disappear, and you live in the moment. Stringing together such moments brings love, joy, and inspiration.

Children are transparent and aren’t afraid to be vulnerable. They show you how to lead with your heart, be true to yourself, and live uninhibited. You may fear that if you follow your heart and express your free-spirit you will be seen as immature or irresponsible. Override these thoughts and be open and vulnerable, speak your truth, and make love to life by embracing the philosophy of “let’s see what happens.”

Through immersing yourself in a child’s love, joy, and imagination, you can learn how to be uninhibited and playful once again. Let a child reintroduce you to the wonders of stargazing, the glee of chasing butterflies, and the timelessness of a summer day. By playing with them, you will spend more time communing with your heart and soul.

Children do the things that make their heart sing and fully enjoy life’s wonders. You too, can take pleasure in the simple things in life that make your heart sing, and invite others to join in as you go barefoot in the grass or float in a pool of water. You can dance spontaneously when you hear music at the grocery store, giggle when you get drenched in the rain, or sing out loud while listening to your favorite music. You can seek out new activities that make you laugh with joyful abandon and unlock your heart to love.

Children have the power to teach us the greatest lessons we’ll ever know about love. See yourself reflected in the love-light of a child’s eyes and you will know without a doubt that love is who you are.

Dr. Debra Reble is the author of Being Love: How Loving Yourself Creates Ripples of Transformation in Your Relationships and the World now available. For a limited time, you’ll receive over 50 transformational gifts when you purchase a copy of Being Love. www.BeingLoveBook.com

Consciously merging her practical tools as a psychologist with her intuitive and spiritual gifts, Dr. Debra L. Reble empowers women to connect with their hearts and live authentically through her transformational Soul-Hearted LivingTM program. Debra is the author of Soul-Hearted Partnership: The Ultimate Experience of Love, Passion, and Intimacy, which garnered four book awards including the Eric Hoffer award. A frequent guest contributor to Aspire Magazine and other high-profile blogs, her words of wisdom are embraced by readers around the world. Her popular inspirational podcast, Soul-Hearted Living, airs on iTunes and other platforms and is dedicated to reconnecting women with their hearts.